Body Exploration

Now that the secret power of touch has been unveiled, let's put it to good use and get you started with a self-exploration.

Self-exploration is very important, essential even, in developing an intimate connection to self.

Self-Exploration

It starts with undressing slowly while maximizing self-touch. Your body, too, deserves your touch.

Play your Get-it-on playlist to set the mood

Peel your jeans/pants/skirt off by pushing them/it down with your hands using strong yet gentle pressure against your thighs

Caress your belly, center of emotions and intuitions, before gripping onto your top and removing it slowly

Take your socks off and massage your feet. They support you all day long and rarely receive love for it, they are deserving

While you're at it, massage your hands, knuckle by knuckle

Take your hand up along your arm, cup your shoulder, walk your fingers up your neck

Untie your hair if necessary, plunge your fingers into your mane, massage your skull

Place both hands on either side of your face near the cheeks, lift up towards your temples

Now take your self-exploration to a more intimate level:

Have you ever used a hand mirror to look at your vagina? Yes, I just said vagina. Repeat after me, "vagina". Do you know what it looks like up close?

Regardless of the answer, go do it immediately. Don't be afraid. To paraphrase the movie Easy A, "What do you think [you] have down there? A gnome?"

Grab a hand mirror and explore the look of it, the proportions, the colors. Vaginas are wondrous creatures who need love.

For those of you who wonder how they compare to others or find theirs "ugly", take a look at the Great Wall of Vagina.

A rainbow of vaginas. All are different and all are beautiful.

"Hail to the V!"

Click to see the remaining 'Great Wall of Vaginas' Panels

Exploration of Foreign Lands

Yes, by that I mean someone else's body. What an amazing way to develop intimacy with another human being!

First, let's identify the main erogenous zones. It is important to note that they are quite different between males and females, so make sure that you have your anatomy down:

On Female

Lips
Clitoris (hooded button in the genital area)
Vagina
Breasts
Throat/Neck
Belly Button
Hips
Wrists and Palms
Armpits

On Male

Penis
Scrotum
Perineum (line of skin between the anus and the scrotum)
Stomach
Neck
Chest
Fingers/Toes

On Both

Nipples
Inner Thighs
Lower Belly
Inside of Arm
Scalp

There is not one but many, many ways to stimulate. Use one or more of these 5 tips to delight your lover's erogenous zones (and yours of course):

Pressure: Start with very light touch, barely skimming; then intensify the pressure
Soft/hard: Alternate between the flesh of your fingers and your nails. Be very careful not to harm and to be mindful of which area you are using your nails on. I can already tell you that nails+ clitoris or nail+penis might not be a good idea
Presence: Look at your fingers as they touch their body. It will force presence within your touch. Think to yourself, amazed: "I am touching a body right now. I am pleasing a living, breathing human being."
Vibrate energy: If you don't know what vibrating energy feels like, just visualize the originating organ (see below) shining a bright light or a vivid color, and expanding in size. I assure you that your lover will sense and receive these vibration:
1. Send vibrations from your heart down your arm, into your hand and fingers as you touch them
2. Generate vibrations from your lower belly, up your chest, into your arm, into your hand and fingers as you touch them
What else other than fingers can you use? I am glad you asked. So many things!
1. Your lips
2. Your tongue
3. Your tongue with a mint
4. Your teeth
5. The tip of your nose
6. Your chin
7. Your eyelashes
8. Your hair
9. Your hands with massage oil
10. Your feet
11. Your toes
12. Your sex
13. A vibrator
14. A feather
15. A lollipop
16. An ice cube